Decisions that we make, shape our daily lives.
Decided to sleep in and not go to work again today for the 5th day in a row? You most likely have no job now. Decided to become a vet? Now you are maybe the top vet in the area, amazing! Decided to wear a mask while driving alone? Now you just look like an idiot.
We make a ton of decisions every single day, sometimes without even really thinking about it. Now, I don't need to tell you about all the Covid related decisions we've had to make. Talk about life changing.
Sometimes decisions are super easy to make, but sometimes they are not easy at all. Sometimes you may even say "That's an impossible decision to make" I hear this a lot on Grey's Anatomy. Your wife and baby are in stress and they can only save one, who do you pick? That's an impossible decision.
Decisions change our daily life, and the best thing is WE have control over our own decisions.
As anyone, I have made a lot of decisions in my life. Some super easy and some not so much.
When I was a little girl, I decided I would be the biggest Undertaker fan in the world. I had shirts, and little figurines of him. I even almost touched him at a live event! Let me tell you, he is a big, BIG guy.
I also made the decision to love Nsync, yes at the time I actually loved them more than Hanson. You are picturing my room pretty accurately, Nsync puppets, Justin Timberlake facts on the wall, Ashlee Simpson posters and The Undertaker. Oh the 90s.
I decided to marry a man I love so deeply, and I decide every single day to be the best wife I can be. If I'm being honest, which is what my blogs are all about, I have thought through the idea of not being married to my husband. Guys, Covid hit us hard and things were not great before Covid either. There were a lot of frustrations between us, and with the stress of Covid on top of it, things got hard.
We decide everyday if we will show up for the other person, and be the best version of ourselves we can that day. That's all that we can do, and continue to be. Also, communicate. We tell each other if we need space, because we know if we need it or not. Fun side note about decisions: our biggest difference, my husband wants to move. Like move anywhere, open to Florida even he says. My thoughts, Um no thanks...I would like to stay with family, my support system! Talk about an impossible decision.
Let's make a decision together.
It's trash day, and your garbage has yet to be emptied. This is your husbands job, so you look over he is sitting on the couch with his feet up watching TV.
You now have a decision to make.
A) Tell him he's an idiot and to take it out now
B) Ask him politely/remind him to take it out
C) Do it yourself
D) Offer a reward, yes like a child
E) Turn a cheek and trust he will do it.
Although A is what your stress level is telling you to say in that exact moment, I would resort to B,C or D, whatever works best for YOUR husband. For your own mental health, I do not recommend E unless you are okay with it not being emptied till next week. That will 100% result in option A for the next week.
Your decision on what to say will effect his reaction, obviously. I'm sure if you say A to him, he will not be so kind. That is to be expected, and you know that yourself. You have a decision to make, and deal with the effects after you have made that decision.
I need to think through this myself, what is the best way to get my point across without starting any fights? I personally think this is a lot about respect too. Learning how to control your stress and deciding to be a helpful wife instead of nagging one (although let's be real, they will still see us as nagging...in all honesty we kind of are)
Men, you make a decision every time you finishing urinating. Do you put the seat down, or leave it up? As a dear friend and I recently shouted to some young, drunk guys at a bar...JUST PUT IT DOWN!
I have someone close to me thinking about having a baby, trying to make that decision if its right for them or not. That is a huge, life altering decision.
For Justin and I, it was one of the first things we talked about because I knew I wanted kids. I've always dreamed of being a mom. Spoiler; it's not all its cracked up to be. After we got married, we had decided we were going to start trying for a baby. Hold up, life happened, something with more decisions ahead.
I got sick. Very, very sick. I mean, in the ICU (after being rushed down in the ambulance) with tubes everywhere. I had decisions to make, my mom and my newly appointed husband had decisions to make.
Once all was clear, myself, husband and our family doctor made the decision that we can start trying together. Um, that sounds odd. Our family doctor gave me the medical clear to start trying for a baby. My husband and I did the working part. This is just all weird, moving on. Our decisions were maybe not the right one, but the best one!
I got my Pericarditis back 9 weeks into my pregnancy. Yipee. Now talk about decisions. I had to made the decision of going without medication and hoping my heart wouldn't stop from pressure OR taking medication for my heart but could damage the heart of my baby, possibly needing surgery as a newborn. Talk about a hard decision. For anyone on the edge of their seat on what I decided, I took the medication. I figured if my heart stops, the heart of my baby will also stop. If baby can have surgery to fix it, that was the decision for me. Thankfully, she never needed surgery!
I recently made a decision that some may say would be one of those impossible ones, but it honestly wasn't. I just listened to what I needed.
I have had a best friend for years, I would say we got really close in Grade 11, but knew each other since Grade 5. I got along great with her family, and tolerated her other friends. We had our children fairly close together, and supported each other through a lot of life's ups and downs. We were so close and would tell each other everything.
Things changed, things weren't as easy anymore. I all of a sudden couldn't share my struggles with her, unless I wanted to get accused of making them up. I had to report when we were seeing a friend of Isabelle's. I had to really think before I spoke, in fear of upsetting someones feelings.
I didn't like the anxiety I felt before, during and after our play dates. I didn't like my character being questioned. I didn't like feeling like I had to answer to anyone. I didn't like the way this friendship made me feel, so it made the decision pretty easy for me.
Things got more complicated with jealousy and feelings getting hurt. I was honestly feeling smothered. I made the decision that our friendship is just not working at this time in our lives. A decision that my mental health needed so badly.
Some may say this decision was selfish, and that is okay, but this was MY decision to make, not yours.
I have an older sister, and she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019. She had a decision to make, either get the lump removed or the entire breast removed. She immediately decided, the entire breast. I admire her for making that decision so quickly. I would have needed to think, I mean as an outsider I am saying this obviously. I have always said my sister is more of a logical thinker, and I am more of an emotional thinker. Our decisions are often opposite of each other.
Decisions make our life exciting, memorable, challenging and calming. Decisions that you make today, will change your tomorrow. Remember when I said the best part is we have control over most these decisions? It's because it means we have control over our own lives.
Every decision I make, I try to be the best me I can be. Sometimes I don't make the best decision, but I usually always get another chance.
Make the decisions that are right for you. Put yourself first for once.
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